G-spot

The G-spot (or Gräfenberg spot) is a particularly responsive area of the anterior wall of the vagina, the side facing the belly. It's usually located between 3 and 5 cm from the entrance, just behind the pubic bone.

It isn't an isolated button (whether it exists as a separate organ is still debated, in fact) but more of a crossroads: the internal roots of the clitoris, the urethra and the small glands around it all meet there. Hence that slightly ridged feel, a bit like a different skin texture, which becomes more noticeable as arousal builds.

The simplest way to find it is still a finger. One or two fingers, palm up, slipped gently into a vagina that's already well aroused and lubricated, then a slow hooking motion, as if beckoning "come hither". Work with pressure and short back-and-forth movements, not fast rubbing: it's the firmness of the touch that counts, more than the speed.

A common first reaction: a sudden urge to pee that takes you by surprise and stops everything. It's normal (the urethra is right above) and often fades after a few moments if you carry on calmly. Going to the loo beforehand, putting down a towel and breathing are usually enough to release the brake. Short nails, as much lube as you like, and stop at once if it feels unpleasant or painful.

As for positions, the ones that angle the penis or a curved sex toy towards the front wall work best: doggy style, woman on top tilting her pelvis, or missionary with a pillow under the bottom. Shallow thrusts often beat long strokes, and caressing the clitoris at the same time changes everything for many women.

There's also talk of a male equivalent, more accurately called the P-spot: it's the prostate, reached through the rectum, on the front wall, a few centimetres in from the anus. Same logic of slow pressure, with plenty of lube and clear agreement on both sides.

Not to be confused with a promise: not every woman feels the same thing there, and feeling nothing is perfectly normal. The G-spot isn't an on switch, and it doesn't lead to a "better" orgasm than the one the clitoris gives. In case of persistent pain, bleeding or recurring discomfort, a doctor or a sex therapist is the right person to talk to.

Synonyms : Gräfenberg spot, Gräfenberg zone, G spot, P-spot (male equivalent)